Don’t “should” all over yourself!

 

I used to tell myself what I “should” do, and ultimately realized NO ONE likes to be told what they should do.. it’s poor communication, and frankly it’s a manipulative word.

 

How would you feel if I said “you should comment and share this post”? Can you sense the bully ego, with judgement and pressure to conform?

 

I’ve had men approach me and say, “we should exchange numbers” and this is such a red flag for me now, no thank you

 

When used internally, I can feel the energy leaking out of myself, and even from others

 

This post was by request of a Holistic Massage client this week, when I could sense she was binding herself with this cognitive pattern. “A lightbulb went off for me,” she says after

 

With a slight shift in mindset, with #InnerWork practice to unlearn “should” and instead use the more expansive “could”!

 

This presents options — a choice — which is infinitely more empowering

 

For ourselves in our own heads, and with others in conversation

 

How is this resonating today? Please like, comment and share if it feels better

 

Many blessings to you