Reconciling Humanity with Psychotherapist Dennis Windego, Episode 5
- January 25th, 2024
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Hello, everybody. Welcome to Reconciling Humanity. I’m Eleanor Hayward. Really grateful to introduce
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my co-host Jody Harbour of Grandmother’s Voice and Dennis Windego, who is a psychotherapist.
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And I am so grateful for your attendance here. We are discussing the spiritual path to mental
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wellness, hosted on Skyward TV and Hopeful Radio. Welcome. And on that spiritual path
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to mental wellness, an important that an issue that’s important to me is the concept of decolonization,
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and having this conversation because I don’t think it’s just one thing. And as much as
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I respect that decolonization is a political process, it’s a structural, institutional policy
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issue. It’s also, from my perspective, a mindset issue, a heart set issue. How do we shift
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perspective? How do we shift our value system? And I really honour the truth and reconciliation
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process that we’ve got here in Canada. I’m filming in Burlington, which is between Milton
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and, sorry, Toronto and Niagara Falls. And really grateful, wanting to say a little bit
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of a land acknowledgement. As a settler descendant, I acknowledge the past and current stewards
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of this land, the Haudenosaunee, Wendat-Huron and Attawandoran peoples. I honour and respect
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the wonderful elements of creation that exist, including the four directions, the land, waters,
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plants, animals and ancestors that walked before us. The territory that I’m on is subject
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to the Dish with One Spoon Wampum Belt Covenant, which is an agreement between the Haudenosaunee
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Six Nations Confederacy, the Anishinaabe Ojibwe, and the allied nations to peaceably share
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and care for the lands and relationships around the Great Lakes. We acknowledge and thank
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the Mississaugas of the Credit First Nation for sharing their traditional territory with us.
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And I am personally grateful for the autumn season. I love the colours and the fresh air
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and the chill in the bones. I prefer neither the extreme heat or the cold personally. I
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love the milder temperatures of autumn and the fresh harvest that comes with it, and blessed
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- So Jody, you are the co-founder of Grandmother’s Voice. Would you please share with us what
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you do? And then you can introduce Dennis!
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Hi, nice to see you and everyone that will be joining us today or later on as you as
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you find this video somewhere on your path. I’m Jody Harbour and I’m, my great grandmother
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was of the Cayuga Nation, Six Nations of the Grand River Territory. I’m urban. I’ve grown
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up in the urban, Ontario, love to travel and I follow my heart. Grandmother’s Voice is
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a part of my ancestry. I am connected to spirit and I trust that I’m here to speak my truth,
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help heal whatever needs to be healed. I’m a helper and my path’s cross with Dennis a
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couple of times and I reached out and said, how can I help? What do you do? I want to
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know more. When I saw him, there was this essence that reminded me of my father in
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strength and I just was, how can I serve? And he’s amazing. And Dennis, I think this
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is, we’re honoured to have you here and this time, this world is, we’re in some, I think
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some big changes and the Indigenous voice, knowledge, wisdom, ancient wisdom is so important
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and you transfer that knowledge in the work that you do. So I’m grateful to have you here.
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Please introduce yourself and tell people how great I think you are.
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Oh, miigwech, thank you. My name is Dennis Windego. I’m also known as Zoongwebines, which is
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my original name given to me through ceremony, through life, a process of what we call today
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a rite of passage. Zoongwebines Dijonikaz, Biju Douteen, Nigigoonsiminikaaning Dounjeet.
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So that’s the community I come from, Nigigoonsiminikaaning First Nation in Northwestern Ontario,
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which is part of Treaty 3. I also live in Ottawa. I have connections in Thunder Bay
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and Sudbury and family connection because that’s where my children are. And I do this
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kind of work. I’ve been doing this work for many years, over 30 years at least. I can’t
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even remember. It seems like I just started because it’s always so interesting and new
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information always coming up, and new ways of looking at issues and looking at things.
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But what has remained constant is the spiritual aspect of the work that I’ve been doing. It’s
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always been there. I come from a family of 12. There was 12 of us. And my father was
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a very traditional, very spiritual kind of person. And he knew about the medicines. He
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knew about that way of life and he would teach us. So we would be picking whatever it was,
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berries or roots or whatever it was. And we would pick it up, prepare it, dry it out,
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mix it up, and bag it up in whatever way we needed. And he would travel around the country
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doing ceremony and doing healing and doctoring for people. And that was happening during
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the years growing up where, of course, he didn’t think I was paying attention. I didn’t
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think I was paying attention either. But you know that all that experience, that knowledge
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in that way of life is encoded inside of you, is encoded inside. When you think you weren’t
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listening, it just comes up and it’s like, aha, how did I know this? And I truly believe
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that we all have that connection, that very strong and powerful connection that we all have
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And that’s what I rely on a lot, mainly in the work that I do with people. In Ontario,
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I am known as a Social Worker. I guess I do psychotherapy. People say that I’m a healer.
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I don’t know what to call myself. When people say, what’s your title? I say, I don’t know.
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I have many titles. And I also work in Quebec and I’m registered with Psychologie du Quebec
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as a permit holder to do psychotherapy there. But my work remains constant right across
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wherever I go. And it’s that spiritual part, that spiritual aspect. And when we talk about
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land-based healing, I think about where we look and we have to look inside of ourselves,
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because we are the land. And if we are the land, we are also medicine. And the elders
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always said, whatever you seek is already inside of you. So we have to look into our
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land for our medicine, for our direction, for our way. We are dealing with so many issues
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as human beings in this world. And we have to look at what is available to us and how
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we use that. Is there any questions right now? Like, I’m not sure where you want me
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to go with all this. So if you can ask me a question.
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So what does colonization mean to you? And then therefore, what does decolonization mean
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to you and your work?
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Do you want the Webster Dictionary definition? What does it mean to me? Well, I guess to
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me it means the taking over, the imposition of values, of culture, of language, of institutions
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and everything that we see in life. And it’s about devaluing the marginalized people that
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have been colonized. And that marginalization continues in present day form. It’s not something
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that happened or started in 1492. And it’s about past. It’s about right now and how it continues.
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And because we have been devalued, we have been marginalized and continue to
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struggle with those issues. We have to look at what is our value system, what is our beliefs,
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what is our ways. And it comes down to our teachings that come from a place that we know
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as, since time immemorial. Since time immemorial takes us way back and connects us way back
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before 1492 and our ways, our ceremonies. And to me, this is decolonizing is to understand
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those ways. It’s to know those ways and it’s to practice those ways. But it doesn’t necessarily
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mean, oh, we have to go back and live those old ways. It means we’re bringing the values,
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we’re bringing the practices, we’re bringing the medicine from everything that is about
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that into the present and finding our way out of that darkness of colonialism because
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it’s all around us. But also we need to acknowledge and to find balance in that, in how our lives
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are supported through that process that we have received from whatever you want to call
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it, development or colonization. So it’s always a balance that we have to look for. So let
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me talk about a situation. I was in a community and I was doing a group healing program. I
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had about 40 people in there and I had some elders and support people that were there
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as part of my team. And as we’re going through this healing process, something triggered
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for this young man. And this young man was known to be suicidal, angry, depressed and
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into addictions. So he had not so good of a reputation in his community and people didn’t
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really trust him. And during one of the sessions, he was overwhelmed and he started to lose
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control of himself emotionally, even fictively. And he started to talk in a voice that sounded
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really rough and his voice changed and what he was going through. It just overwhelmed
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everybody and the group scattered and they left the room in a panic. But I know that
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this is a reaction. This is a reaction to some kind of woundedness. This is a reaction
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to some kind of pain. And we need to be able to stabilize some of that reaction to get
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the woundedness of all this and what is the wound all about without getting into a lifelong
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story because the body, spirit is already telling the story in those behaviors. And this is
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a story of colonialism, and colonialism lives inside of us and how we interpret our lived
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experiences and our, you know, if we’re dealing with racism, if we’re dealing with violence,
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if we’re dealing with discrimination and all these issues. So this is all coming up for
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him in this. And I had the elders bring a buffalo hide. They had this buffalo rug and
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we laid it down on the floor and I got the young man to lay on that rug. And I started
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to pray over him. And as I’m praying, I asked the elders to stand, to sit and pray on that
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side of the room and the women to pray on that side of the other side of the room. And
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I said, just pray and we’ll see. I’ll see what happens here. I’ll see where it’s going
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to take us. I truly believe that as helpers or as guides or whatever you want to call
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as healers or to me, the person that I work with is the healer. That person isn’t even
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a client because to me client is the lone term that we label people as, oh, this is
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a client. I seen 20 clients today or whatever it is, right? This is a person. This is a
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person who has experience, who has a story to tell. And this is someone that this to
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me, this is a healer, but he just hasn’t realized that part of him yet. So I’m sitting beside
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this healer. I kneel down beside him. And as I’m noticing his energy, I could feel this
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really darkness about him. And I asked him into that and I asked him, what’s it like
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in that place that seems to be attacking you? It’s me, it’s like there’s a place attacking
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you or you’re trying to run away from it. Can you help me understand what that is? Because
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I’m not quite getting it. And he said, I’m just lost. I’ve been lost for so long. It’s
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just, I am in that place of darkness and it’s, there’s nobody there. Nobody cares about me.
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My family is gone there. I don’t have my parents. I don’t have any siblings. I’m all alone now.
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Most of my family has passed on. And so he’s describing a lot of trauma, a lot of traumatic
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losses and a lot of other types of traumatic experiences that he’s, that he’d been dealing
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with. And, and as he’s talking about that, I noticed something moving inside the body.
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And so I brought out the Eagle fan and started to brush him down. And, and I noticed something,
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something else where it seemed like there was something stuck in his throat, something
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in that area. So I got beside him and I told him just to start blowing that through, but
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be very gentle with that. Because if we have medicine inside of us, I want him to tap into
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that medicine and to move that energy. If that energy, some of that energy is his, some
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of it is his family’s, some of it is the people who harmed him. Some of it, it comes from
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so many different places. And so his, his whole body, his whole breathing is telling
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a story of his history without getting into the way we tell stories, because our bodies,
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our spirits tell stories in a whole different way. And as he’s doing that, I could feel
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that energy. And as, when we are sitting beside people, when we’re helping them, sometimes
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we take the hit of that. Sometimes we, we absorb it. And I could feel that I was absorbing
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it and I was taking it in, but I encourage him just to keep releasing it. And as, and
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as he’s laying there, he’s, he’s releasing out all of his emotions. And I’m not asking
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him what it’s about. I’m not asking him to tell me what his story is, because I’ve seen
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this many times in the field where people are going through something and the practitioner
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is, is trying to get a story. What is the story about it? And even if they tell the
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story that might not be the root cause of it, that might be the reaction place of it.
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So we want to get to the root cause of it. So he’s just releasing it all out. And because
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that all those symptoms that I’m seeing, it has a context to it. And to me, it has a historical
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context and that his, that history includes his siblings, his parents, his grandparents.
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It goes into that lineage where that pain has been transmitted through generations and
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he’s experiencing all of it. And it comes from, and it seems to be when I look into
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his eyes, he has this far, far away look as if he’s just staring somewhere way beyond
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today, way beyond right now. And I had him notice that I want you to notice in the eyes
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what I’m noticing in your eyes. In other words, I’m allowing him to see himself through my
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eyes and what I’m seeing. And he said, yeah, this goes back a long ways and it just keeps
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attacking me. And so there’s an attacking to it. And he’s actually telling me stories
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of intergenerational trauma that are living inside of his body. And then I hear this,
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it’s not a voice, but it’s a sense of knowing. And I know that the spirits are in the room.
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And this name, for some reason, I say to him, your name is, and I gave him a name. I don’t
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even recall that name. And I said it in the Anishinaabe language and I don’t even speak
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Anishinaabe. And when he said his name, he stood up and he said his name eight times,
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eight times and his whole body shifted, his whole body changed. And then his, the glow
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on his face, the glow of his eyes, it was just shining. And then he said that he really
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wants to live. He just doesn’t know how with all of this pain, but he wants to learn how
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to put that away, how to find himself to find that identity. So we just worked with, first
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of all, the individual, which is I, he had an overwhelming experience, something triggered
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him. So I was triggered. And then as we process that, he noticed we, we are, we have been
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dealing with this family community. And all of that is important. And it’s all stuck and
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stored in his body in every cell, every bone, every muscle, every, everything. And we’re
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slowly flushing it out like a river, be that river, what kind of river, what kind of water
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do you need to be that river and be that become that. Because if you say, Oh, there’s a water
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that I remember, you’re not that water, you need to be that water, because that’s the
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spiritual connection. But it’s also the physical connection, because 80%, maybe more, maybe
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less of our body is made of water. So we’re connecting into our medicine into our water
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system. And in the breathing, the oxygen, the air, and the memories, the roots, you
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know, like the tree roots, the plant roots, that’s how the brain system is kind of designed.
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So we’re getting into the history into the root causes of all of this. He’s tapping into
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all of his medicine. And as he works in with that darkness of whatever it is, everything
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that he’s been carrying, because we do carry our histories with us. And now there’s light
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there. There’s love, there’s compassion. All those medicines that I just named. And we
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all have that inside of us. And he’s standing on ground on rock, on Turtle Island. And then
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he announces his name. And his even his voice changed. He’s very calm. And, and he loves
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his name. He finds, and he feels like, I know who I am. So now, so now he worked first with
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I, we, and then returned to I, because I now, can connect and reconnect with community.
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The first I, he was disconnected. In the we, he’s connected to everything and everyone
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and even even what happened before he was born. And going to I, ah, this is who I am.
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But the I is in connection is in relationship with everyone, all my relations. And, and
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he felt a lot better. And he left. So now I had a debriefing with with the elders and
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with the women. And what the women said when when they were praying, and they looked at
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the wall, they said there’s this big Eagle that that was there flapping his wings. And
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they said before you even gave him that name, we knew his name. We heard that name. So we
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knew you were going to give him that name. And I was like, Really? I was just so impressed
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with that. Because when I was part of this, it was like me watching me doing this, but
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it wasn’t really me. I don’t know if you can understand that. But, and then when the elders
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talked, there was this one elder, he was already in his in his 90s. And he was shedding some
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tears. And he said, I remember when I was a little boy, he said, I remember when I was
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a little boy, my great grandfather, he said he used to do ceremonies, he used to
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do healing. And what you just did there is something I seen my great grandfather do,
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when he was helping people and he was doctoring. So how could I do something that I’ve never
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done before? But yet, this elder validated it. He said he’s seen it before. If I’ve never
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seen it before, how could I even do a ceremony or a doctoring that I’ve never been exposed
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to? Because it’s that strong spiritual connection. It’s very powerful. Because what we do today,
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it comes from a someplace inside of us. It comes through our DNA. I was merely a passage
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or a vessel to do this because that’s what it felt like. I’m watching myself do this,
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but I’m not doing it. I’m, I’m walking this. I’m also an observer. But at the same time,
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I’m a guide and I’m going through this with this young man. And, and then what happened
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after that, people in the community would tell me, Oh, you’re a medicine man. And I’d
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say, No, I’m just a social worker. I just help people. I just do what I can. They said,
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No, you’re a medicine man. And these, and people would come to me with their regalia,
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their, their sacred items, and they would want me to bless them. They would bring their
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tobacco to me and they would say, you gave this name to this young man. I want my name
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and you give me a name. And I was like, well, I don’t, I’m not gifted like that. And, you
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know, I got a lot, I had received a lot of requests there. And now here’s the community
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healing piece. Now, when the elder talked about, he watched his grandfather do this
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when he was a child, his great grandfather do this when he was a child, he said, we lost
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our way. It was after Residential Schools came in. And now we were too afraid to practice
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our ways. And he said, what I learned today, and what I want to tell my community, he said,
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we have to return to our way to help people. So to me, that’s decolonizing our approaches to healing.
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We have what is called scientific research, and it follows a certain procedure.
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But we also have spiritual research. And it also follows a procedure very similar to scientific.
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And in a good scientific research, it stands the test of time. And what I just told you,
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what I just shared with you, it stands the test of time, because it came from way before
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my lifetime, way before even this elder who was in his 90s already before his lifetime.
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It came through all those generations like, and it’s, and it’s valid, it’s reliable,
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it’s evidence based — in spirit. It has all the same elements as a good scientific research report.
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It just has a different way of being shared. Because with scientific research,
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you need to have a tangible document in front of you. In our way, we sit in a circle, we
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share stories like this. I cannot give you a detailed analysis of everything that happened
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in that in that day, in that moment. Some of it I don’t even understand. Because it’s
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not for me to understand. But this young man, he understands it, because his life changed
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moving forward from that time. So to me, that’s decolonizing. And to me, he was also holding
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the history of colonialism inside of him. I don’t know if that makes sense?
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That makes a lot of sense! Yes, yes. That was so powerful. So beautiful. Yeah. You know, and
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so much in there. But what I heard, and I’m hoping that the non indigenous people, we’re
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all indigenous, but in this moment, there’s this, you know, when we talk about Reconciling Humanity,
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we’re talking about how do we bring this knowledge in a good way, share it with
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the people, because the colonized, like this, it’s happened to all of us. You specifically
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talk about a community. And you know, maybe, you know, we’re assuming an indigenous community,
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these communities that you work with that, you know, are in remote communities that don’t
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have what we have in our urban world. So they’re already marginalized, they’re already don’t
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have everything. But really, they, they have everything, you know, when they when they’re
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returned to their culture. And so this is what I learned from watching you and just
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listening to you. I’m remembering all of these times I’ve been in the space where you’re
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practicing and in that moment with the people, you’re not you’re not listening to their voice,
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you’re watching their body, you’re watching them, you’re in that that essence and spirit.
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And so, kind of sticking to our dialogue here, and what we’re trying to explain to people
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is how now do we move forward? And how do you share this knowledge with, the, with everyone?
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The people who are doing this work, this social work and are not indigenous, because we know
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that there’s, you know, there’s this stigma around what’s indigenous is indigenous and
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appropriation and, you know, how in your practice and because you do have a program beginning
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in 2024. And happy to say that Grandmother’s Voice is supporting, you know, helping bring
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bring this to the mainstream, you know, to the Western medicine that’s, you know, trying
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to figure out how do they embed indigenous knowledge and ancient wisdom into this system,
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or integrate it, or work alongside. So how how do you see that happening within your, you
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know, your training or practice that you’re bringing forward to society?
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Well, one of the messages that is pretty constant, I always share is that we all come from a
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land somewhere, every one of us, who’s ever sit in that circle in that audience, or they
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are participants or trainees as part of a program, we all come from a land somewhere,
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we’re all indigenous to somewhere. And we all have that connection, that spiritual connection
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to land, because it is part of us, it is who we are. Some people have activities that strengthen
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that spiritual connection, like for example, up in the up in the Cree Nation, they have
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what is called the goose hunt, that’s part of their culture. And, and anytime I’m doing
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a workshop or training or whatever, and if there’s a flock of geese, or even a lone
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goose that comes flying by and he, and he makes his goose call, I lose the whole group
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because they’re going to go outside and they’re going to look in the sky and they’re going
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to start making a goose call, you know, that’s to me, that’s the cultural cues, the cultural
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cues, and that defines who they are as a people, who they are as a nation, and their activities
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culturally and that connects them and binds them. That’s a very powerful and spiritual
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connection. But if you, but if we look at spirit in a different way, some of them are
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traditional, some of them are Anglican, some of them are Protestant, and that doesn’t really
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unite them that basically, you know, creates some problems. But when they’re practicing
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their cultural spiritual ways, it’s connecting them. And we all need to find that inside
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of us. So part of training is having people go through a process of introspecting, who
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am I? Who am I? Where do I come from? Where is my land? What are my teachings that have
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sustained me, that has helped my community, my people? Where do I come from? And even
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if it’s, you know, whatever side or whatever position you’re in in society, whether on
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the land or whether on a boat, we all can walk this path together. Because we all come
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from a land somewhere. And, but it’s to acknowledge that and to find and to build strategies in
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addressing those things, instead of having those issues of divide and conquer separate
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us and keep us separated. We need to find that power in, in each process to work together
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to move forward together. When I look at the history of Indigenous people and Canada, it
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is a very complicated history. And, and we need to look at that history, whether it makes
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you feel comfortable or uncomfortable, we need to look at it. However it affects you
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or however you think about it. It’s a, it’s an opportunity to go through a process of
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introspection. How, why is it hitting me like this? What is it about it that’s hitting my
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gut that’s hitting me in the body? What is it about this information? And it’s to examine
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that because it’s to reconcile that within oneself, within that self. And then are you
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going to take a new position, a new position in how you do the work? Because I think it’s
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always important that we position ourselves in a way, in a good way, as they say, to do
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it in a good way. So that we’re, we are helping people and that we’re not continuing to create
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this process of colonization and, but to move forward and to change things to the way that
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people understand their world. There’s a lot of different exercises, there’s a lot of different
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teachings. And in the program, I would supervise everyone in how they’re doing the process.
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You know, to look at when beliefs get in the way, what are those beliefs, because it’s
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up to that person to reconcile them to look at differently. One question, this professor
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of mine, he asked us, would your parents lie to you? And of course, we all said, no way,
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no way, my parents would never lie to me. And but as we discussed it, and as we went
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through a process of introspection with it, I realized my father did lie to me. There
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are things that offer to me as truth, which were not based on truth. He did lie to me.
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But what was the intent of those lies? There was to protect me, to help me. But also, why
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were the lies there? Well, because somebody else lied to him. Somebody else didn’t really
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teach him the truth of everything around colonialism. And, and he truly believed those things.
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So he passed it on. And so he lied to us. So we really need to look at that and explain
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and ask ourselves. Everything my parents taught me. Did they lie to me too? And probably the
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answer would be yes. But was that lie intentional or non intentional? Was it, you know, what
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is it based on? And can you challenge that? Because it becomes our belief system, we need
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to challenge that. So in that, in the program, you’re actually getting your own therapy.
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You’re actually doing your own intergenerational trauma type of therapy. You’re looking at
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your own family systems, your own community, your own way of being. And to look at what
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is it you need to adjust. But you’re also learning strategies in helping people heal.
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We are all spiritual beings having a human experience. We are all that’s, those spiritual
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beings. It doesn’t it’s not owned by indigenous people. It’s owned by all people where they
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are all spiritual. And we can work in those ways. But if but if I share something that
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comes specifically from my people, I want, I want people to acknowledge that. Just the
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way I acknowledge, Oh, this is what I learned from the Cree Nation. This is what I learned
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from the Mohawk people. I would acknowledge that. And I wouldn’t take it on as my own.
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Just like in any kind of when we’re doing literature reviews, and if we use some of
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that information, we need we need to cite it. Right. So so we also must do that, because
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there’s also a history of appropriation, you know, our ways being taken and stolen, and
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somebody else putting their name on it and saying, This is my original thought, this
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is my original model, this is mine. But yet they had taken it from indigenous person, and
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not giving them any credit. And I think that helps that would help to, to build some, I
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don’t know, accountability, but also some value in, in, in our ways, because there is
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a lot of value in our ways. Yes, thank you so much Dennis.
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Amazing. Yeah. So there.
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I also want to say this other thing. I also had a few managers take the program. And they
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loved it. Because as a manager, they have employees, and sometimes those employees need
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support for the work they’re doing, but also the emotional impact that might have on them.
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So it’s good that they that they have this training, and that they’re able to provide
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that kind of supervision to their employees, even if they are not therapists. But I’ve also
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had non-native managers come in and take the training. And it could see how sometimes the
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the people that they’re supervising might on it might unintentionally be applying those
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colonial ways and reinforcing them. And when they see that now, they help their workers
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to approach it in a decolonizing way. So then they have the rules to change organizations,
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or change the way the work is being done. Because colonialism affects like you said,
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every part of society, it’s in policies, it’s, it’s even in day to day interactions, like,
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like for example, there’s this, there’s this woman who, who, who, who came to me for, you
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know, because she was very frustrated with Child and Family Services. And she was dealing
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with a, not with a native Child and Family Services agency. And she was a foster mother.
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And her, she was taking care of her, her, her niece and nieces and nephews. And, and
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her nieces and nephews would call her grandma, grandma, because that is culturally appropriate.
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That is like we do not follow all the time the nuclear family system. Where, oh, no,
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that’s your aunt, that’s not your grandma. So, so the agency was, you know, giving
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her the riot act. You’re not the grandmother. You’re the auntie. You’re not the grandmother.
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And so even the manager said, you’re not the grandmother. You have to stop that because
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you’re confusing the children. But she’s right. She is the grandmother in our cultural way.
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So, so this is what I mean. The belief system, as you were sayin, and the values. Yeah, that belief system,
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but also, you know, the nuclear, the nuclear family system versus the cultural family system.
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And the roles that people play. Thank you. I think that’s a good place to wrap up our
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conversation. There was such wisdom there, Dennis, and we will share the link for the
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course in January that Grandmother’s Voice is facilitating and really grateful for your
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time and your energy. And I love the story about the young man and how his, how his voice
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changed and his eyes changed and, and how we are the medicine that the elements are within us.
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If we are able to, to access them and, and, and hold each other in community. Yeah, I,
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yeah, I just, I have to just, you know, well, I always have to say, see ya. But so much,
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so much wisdom is correct. And I think that it’s time. Why aren’t we in a time? This shift
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of consciousness and people were here for a reason to live, live life in a good way
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and joy and love. And, and everything you spoke about Dennis, I wish we could put on
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the largest world, you know, screen and scream it out to the world because it’s, it’s, people
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are hungry to know how we heal, and how we return back to community to support each other
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because we are this, this time, I hope that we can look back at this video and, in a
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year and feel that, that we are changing. The world is changing into this, this new
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beautiful world. And it’s with people like you who devote their life and time to helping
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others on their healing, their own healing journey. So niawen for always saying yes and,
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and sharing knowledge and, and yeah, I look really forward to supporting, Grandmother’s
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voice, look forward to supporting what you do in the future and hope that, that everyone
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will walk, walk with this wisdom of supporting each other. Niawen.
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Mahow, chi miigwech. Thank you.
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