Helping Teens with Dimple Arora
- November 8th, 2023
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Welcome everybody! Welcome to The Love Your Vibe show. It’s a Revolution of Evolution.
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We are Elvira Hopper and Eleanor Hayward. And we are so happy to be on Skyward TV and
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Hopeful Radio on several platforms. We love that we are so aligned with their mission
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to support mental wellness globally through the spiritual path. We are purveyors of a
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unique personal development solution for heart-centered humans. And today our guest is a beautiful
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and powerful lady that we just adore. We’ve been friends for a long time, all three of
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us have. And her name is Dimple Arora. And she is a fabulous coach and healer, or as
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I like to say, CoachHealer. I don’t know if you identify with that Dimple, but she
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works with teens and moms and she does some really amazing things. And we’re going to
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ask her about her magic so that you can learn about some new modalities that might be able
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to serve you or the people you love. So without any further ado, we’re just going to give
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Dimple a round of applause for being here. Yay! Welcome!
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Thank you so much, ladies! It’s so, I’m so excited to be here. It’s so fun to hang out
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with you on this Zoom call.
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Well, it’s been fun so far. So let’s continue. And we’re just going to get started, Dimple
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right with your WHY I love to ask about your why because your WHY is like people don’t
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want to know what you do. They want to know WHY you do it. So we just want to ask you,
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WHY do you do what you do, Dimple? Before you even tell us about what it is that you
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do, but why do you do it?
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Why do I do it? So for me, I feel like everything that’s wrong with us, which is not really
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wrong with us, but everything that we struggle with in life stems from our childhood. So
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I want us to be healed people, healed parents, so we could show up in the world and raise
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these beautiful humans into these bigger humans that can thrive. And so I, from my story, I
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mean, I’ve I everything that I went through, it stems back to childhood. And usually that’s
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the case with everyone. So I say we’re all evolving and let’s do it mindfully as a family
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so that we are evolving together and we’re growing together. So this is why I do what
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I do. And I always say we’re healing generations, one thought, one emotion, and one choice at
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a time.
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Oh, I get chills. That’s beautiful. Love it. We’re giving you the jazz snaps. That is fantastic.
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So what else would you like to know?
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Tell us about your approach to nervous system regulation. How does that fit into your practice
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and service of youth and their, and their mothers?
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Sure. So I work with teens who are stressed and they come to me with a variety of issues.
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So it could be as serious as self-harm and eating disorders, or they want help with their
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confidence or in their friendships. And so it’s, it’s a spectrum. And so for me, what
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I did notice for myself from my own story, my own upbringing, and then I became very
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sick, very unwell, I was diagnosed with fibromyalgia, autoimmune thyroiditis, different conditions,
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I had two hip surgeries, a brain hemorrhage. And so, from healing from all of that, I realized
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that it doesn’t matter how much mindset work we do. We need to first start with the body
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and start with regulating the nervous system. And I know that you have spoken about this
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and you also teach the same thing. So when we regulate the nervous system, we can get
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out of that survival mode. And we can train the body to hold better energetic habits.
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And when we’re holding energetic habits that serve us, then we are able to then raise our
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frequency, raise our vibe, attract more miracles into our life, as you speak about, become
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Miracle Magnets. And it really starts with regulating ourselves, feeling safe in our bodies,
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getting more blood flow to the brain, and making better decisions and really embodying
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that feeling of being in our bodies.
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Wow, that’s beautiful. I love that. So Dimple, could you kind of talk about like a case study,
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someone that, that comes to mind, like they showed up like this, and then you did your
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magic. And then they left feeling like this. Like, can you kind of just give like a typical
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scenario doesn’t have to be like a, you know, a specific person, but just, you know, like
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a typical scenario? I know we’re putting you on the spot there, but.
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So for teens, some of them come with such trauma in their bodies. And maybe they’ve
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had a parent that was physically abusive or mentally abusive, maybe they’ve had an over
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controlling parent, but then it’s a parent that then realizes, wow, my child needs some
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help. My child needs some coaching, my child needs some therapy. And this parent almost
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has an awakening and then they come for help for their child. And so for example, I had
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a client recently, she had eating disorder, she was performing self-harm on herself. And
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her parents literally found her unconscious in the basement one day because she was choking
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herself. And so a teen in that situation, we can’t just start with mindset, right? It’s
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not about reframing a bunch of perspectives and things like that. It’s actually starting
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with let’s get this person back into their body, let’s resolve the emotions that are
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causing her nervous system to be on this high alert. And so working with the emotional health
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of that person to, and that’s where I use a modality called EFT. And I use different
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somatic exercises. And actually it’s beautiful because in this particular case that I’m thinking
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of right now, I had the mom doing these exercises with the daughter at night before she went
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to bed. And so we were then also developing the relationship and the bond with between
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the parents and the child, right? And so just getting that person to feel safe in their
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body again, and to actually enter back into the body. So what I did in that case, we had
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a series of exercises that the mom was doing with the child every night. I was teaching,
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I taught this teen how to do EFT, which stands for Emotional Freedom Technique, which also
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stands for Tapping, which you’re familiar with. For those who are not familiar with
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Tapping, you’re basically taking your fingertips and tapping various acupressure points on
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the face, on the torso, okay, that are connected to your meridians and your meridians are energy
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channels that run through the body. And if anyone’s familiar with Chinese medicine, it’s
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like acupuncture without the needles is what you’re doing on yourself.
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I’ve never heard it that way, that’s cool! Yeah, the form of energy psychology and what it does is it sends
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a calming signal to our amygdala. Our amygdala, it plays a vital role, right in controlling
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various emotional behaviors such as fear, rage, anxiety. And so what we’re doing is
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we’re calming down the amygdala by tapping these various points. And to be honest, right
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before our call, I was doing some tapping. Oh, that’s so cool. That’s awesome. Amazing.
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And I know our dear Eleanor is also an EFT practitioner. And just, you know, like, fun
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fact, we had a retreat for our team not too long ago in September. And she actually led
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a session of basically having us go back to some very difficult memories and then having
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us tap as we recall these memories. And for me, I had a really hard time when my father
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was dying. And so basically, it was, you know, releasing these old memories through the tapping,
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and I had a release and I cried. And then I felt better. I felt lighter afterwards. So
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like this stuff really, really works. Yay!
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It really works. I mean, this team now, I mean, she’s gained 10 pounds, she eats at
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least 10 meals a day. There’s no longer a self harm issue. And actually, the most profound
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case I’ve had with EFT is actually a woman that came to me, she was sexually abused by
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a brother-in-law for about four years. And after one session of EFT, she came back to
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me and said that situation, like even those four years of those haunted memories were
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no longer bothering her. Wow, that’s a very, yeah, that was a very profound change in just
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one session.
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Wow, that is so beautiful, Dimple. What an honor to be able to do that kind of work,
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right?
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So it’s such an honor. It’s God’s work. It is the work of the divine.
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Oh, I love that. I love that. Yeah, that’s amazing.
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To get our thoughts and our feelings on the same page as well. And what I’ve intuited
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about Tapping for people who aren’t familiar with the idea is that we can use a keyboard
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to program our computer, or we can use our acupressure points to reprogram our neurological
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system. I was like, oh, okay, that makes sense to me. But it also works with the connective
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tissues. So tell us about how you work with fascia as well and how that plays into your
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treatment.
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Yes. So I mean, fascial health is so important. And I don’t particularly work with the fascia,
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but I’ve through my own healing experience, have realized the importance of the fascia.
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And so our fascial system is like this network that just, it’s one big network that goes throughout
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the body. And so it actually carries our emotions. And sometimes we can get blockages when we
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run our like if we hear a lie, it can affect our fascial system. If we tell a lie, it can
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affect our fascial system, right? So a lot of emotions run through because it’s an electric
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system. It’s like it’s an electric system that carries the current of emotions. And
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so for example, with me, I used to have a lot of chronic pain probably 10 to 12 years
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ago now.
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Fibromyalgia you mentioned? Yeah, the fibromyalgia and it was just a daily chronic pain and things
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like holding a glass even just doing your arm like this, like you can feel tightness,
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you can feel a pull, your hips and glutes are always tight. There’s no release in the
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hips. Ankles are always sore, right? So around all of this bone structure is like there’s
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this fascia that runs through our system. And when we’re holding a lot of emotions that
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have been unresolved, we will have issues in our body with the fascial system. That’s
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why stretching is so hard for some people. That’s why chronic pain develops. And that’s
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why sometimes the fascia is become so stiff. And we’re kind of frozen in it and we can’t
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really move fluidly. And you’re a massage therapist too, Eleanor, so you know how this
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works. And so I’ve had a lot of body work done over the past 12 years. And I realized
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the importance of my fascia and moving the lymphatic system so that energy can flow through.
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That’s amazing. So how is that? Yeah, let’s give you some snaps. How is the
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fascia best, you know, treated like, is it through massage? Is there are there
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other modalities? Like, what is it that you recommend? What did you do?
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Yeah, so any like osteopathy is great. I see a manual alignment therapist, and she’s
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she knows my body. She’s been working on my body for about 12 years now. And I’ll have
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to tell you one day, I did come across these fascial maneuvers that you can do on your
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own. And I tried a bunch. And I mean, one of them was, for example, you hold your ankle
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and you just kind of twist it like in the opposite, so opposite direction. Okay. And
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yeah, and you hope. But honestly, I just messed up my entire facial system. I was so messed
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up. I went to a party maybe that night. And two chiropractors who are married looked at
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me and said, ‘Wow, you really need an adjustment’. No, it’s not something to really mess around
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with on your own. I don’t feel unless you’re really knowledgeable, because it is a whole
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like you can have a PhD in this area, right of the facial system. So it’s a whole different
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field. So I would say yes, massage therapy, any, Feldenkrais is also another method,
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which involves, you know, different maneuvers and movement. Feldenkrais. Rolfing, Rolfing,
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I think it’s called. Yeah. So there’s a bunch of different manual therapies that can be done
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to work with the fascia, but also something like EFT, which is Tapping, you can move emotions
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through your body and your fascia will respond. Oh, wow. That is so cool. I’m so inspired. Yeah,
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that is juicy. Wow. I love it. I love it. So Dimple, tell us like, do you do like workshops?
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Do you do speaking engagements beyond your one-on-one? Like how do you work that way? Just curious.
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Oh, right now I do the one-on-ones. I have a group coaching program for teens. It’s called GLOW.
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And I recently changed the name. It used to be Girls Lighting Our World, but now I’ve called it
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Givers Lighting Our World. Oh, so you can do it too. Is that the idea? Yeah, guys can do it too. So
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now the reason I’ve changed it to Givers Lighting Our World is because I’ve put in a volunteer
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component to it so that they can volunteer in the community. They can get their hours for high school
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volunteering. And so that’s why now it’s called Givers Lighting Our World. And then I love doing
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workshops, speaking engagements, anything that can serve. Yeah, I love it. You and I did a really
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cool event a few years ago during COVID, you know, with the sacred bowls. Oh yeah! And you did it.
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You did like an activation, joy activation, I think it was in our friend Gyoti’s backyard,
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shout out to her. And that was so beautiful. I just, I just love watching you in your goddess
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presence doing your thing. It was so beautiful. Thank you. That was such a beautiful evening.
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And I just loved watching you and hearing those, the beautiful sound healing. It’s so powerful.
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It is. It’s one of my favorite modalities, right? We talk about the Miracle Magnet movement. It
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states that all modalities matter, and you need to figure out what is your miracle mix? What are,
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what are the things that really support Dimple, you know, to live in her high vibration,
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authentic zone, right? Aligned, Authentic, Fully Self-Expressed. And there’s only one you on the
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planet. There’s only one way for you to Love Your Vibe, right? So I, you know, we like to say there’s
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8 billion people on the planet, 8 billion ways to love your vibe. And, you know, we all have like a
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pie chart of what we use, right? So for me, a big part of it is the love your vibe miracle mindset.
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It saved my life at rock bottom. This amazing woman created a six-month program to facilitate it.
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But for me, a big part is also sound healing. And then there’s breath work. And then there’s,
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you know, I do a little bit of Tapping, not as much. There’s, there’s chanting, there’s, there’s,
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you know, sorry, a meditation, there’s journaling, right? There’s so many pieces, right? So you got
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to think of your, this is what came recently is you, we have a pie chart of how we get to Love Our
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Vibe and be a Miracle Magnet forever. So when you get really conscious about these are the pieces
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that support me and it can change over the years, right? You can do a little less of one thing and
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add something else, but it’s just so great to become aware, to be really, really, you know,
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aware that there are modalities out there that can support you and you need to stay open to what is
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out there. And so I love learning from, you know, experts like you, Dimple, and I’m inspired to go
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do more Tapping. I mean, this amazing woman, you know, supports our team with it. But yeah, I feel
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like I need to go deeper and it’s funny, today I was talking to one of my favorite clients and,
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and it just came through. I said, you know what, I sense you need to consider Tapping,
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just check it out online, you know, see how to do it. It’s super simple. You know, you just
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tap your head and you know, under your nose and, and all these places, as you say, like, even
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though I’m feeling so much change shame, I love and honor myself anyway, or, you know, I’m not sure
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what you would say, but that’s just one of the, you know, phrases you can say. And, and you
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release that, that energy, right? And it’s so simple, right? So I don’t know why I don’t use it
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more, but I, I need to go back to it. So I’m super inspired by this conversation tonight.
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It’s so funny, because we know what we should do. And sometimes we just are in a funk and we don’t
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want to do it, right? And I have to say, we should be teaching Tapping in school to elementary
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students. 100% 100%. If you can’t emotionally regulate, it’s more difficult to learn
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cognitively and intellectually. So I’m so glad to hear that you’re treating teens. So, so tell
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us more about holding stories in our bodies. We hold so many stories and so many lies. So
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here’s the thing we come into this world; we don’t have any training. Every single belief,
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every single experience that we have. It’s, it’s come from who’s our teachers, our parents,
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our teachers, our peers. So we grow up actually holding a bunch of lies in our body.
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Things that are not true about us, other people’s stories about us, other people’s beliefs that
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maybe are serving them to keep them safe, but they don’t serve us in our adult life. So we are just
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programmed with so much that is not ours. And when we become adults, we start to reflect and we
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realize, hold on a minute, do I really believe that? Is that really my story? Why is this my story?
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Oh, I see how that person can have it as their story. Right? And then there’s people who were
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not everyone’s cup of tea. Maybe there’s people that we trigger, or that trigger us. Yeah. So I always
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get to this point of reflection. And I think, how did I contribute to this person’s story about me?
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This person obviously doesn’t seem to jive with me or like me. It’s most likely a family member,
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right? Yeah. You know? The Angels of Evolution, I like to say! Exactly the family’s here to teach
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us. And I started seeing everybody at this point in my life as a teacher. Yeah. And so then I think,
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oh, how did I contribute to this person’s story about me? And I think, and then I asked myself,
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what part of their story is actually true about me? Oh, and so I start to reflect and it takes a lot
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of vulnerability to do that with yourself. Yeah. Radical self-awareness, we like to say.
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And radical responsibility. Yeah. Exactly. And I’m not doing it to criticize myself. I’m not doing
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it to change myself for that person, but I’m doing it so I can reflect on where I need to work on,
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what do I need to heal for myself? What’s a lie here? And what’s the truth? And we can usually
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feel the truth. Yes. Yeah. And when we’re surrounded by truth, our bodies relax when we’re
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surrounded by truth. So we’re carried around all of these stories and other stories. And so I’m
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really excited to teach teens and young kids at a young age. Is that really true? Are you making
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an assumption? Don’t make stories about other people until you have some facts, right? So
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we just live our life getting hurt because we’re assuming all the time.
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Yeah. That was what I did forever. And I still do it, but I catch myself and do it a lot less.
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I catch myself. It’s my old victimhood persona, for survival. Right? Yeah. I catch myself and now it’s more of
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a gentle self-reflection. I like to call it a gentle self-reflection. Gentle self-reflection.
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I love that. Yeah, that’s beautiful. It reminds me of the work of Byron Katie, right?
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You know, the four questions, you know, is it true? How do you know it’s true? You know, and,
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and, you know, who would you be without that story? And, and I forget anyway, there’s four
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questions. They’re very powerful. And yeah, it’s so, so good to really examine your story and,
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and, and to see, yeah, what is, what am I doing that that person is being triggered? But you know
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what? There’s also the, the other piece of it that maybe you’re not doing anything. Maybe they’re just
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triggered because, you know, for example, you shine really bright Dimple, right? And you might
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intimidate people that aren’t shining so bright. And they’re like, you know, who the hell is she
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to shine so bright? Maybe they’re, they’re pointing at you, but they got three fingers
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pointing back at themselves. Maybe I should be shining brighter, right? So sometimes we just
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trigger people because they’re not doing the thing that they see you doing, right? So, and,
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and we need to be okay to be, you know, this is something I’ve just realized a lot in the last
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week. We need to be okay with being the villain in someone else’s story, you know? And not to take it
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personally. And so yes, there’s a piece of self reflection there, but there’s also a piece of,
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Hey, you know what? I’m not going to be everyone’s cup of tea. And if I’m the villain in their story
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and they need me to be a certain way, well, all the power to them, you know? Like, so it’s not to
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take it personally because my God, I used to people please so that everybody would love me and, and
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not, you know, not dislike me because I didn’t want to be cast out, you know, now I don’t care
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who casts me out. Like, Hey, I got somewhere else to go, you know, it really doesn’t matter. But
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back then I didn’t have as many options because I was living so unconsciously, right? So I don’t
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know. Do you resonate with that? Absolutely. So sometimes I will self-reflect and realize like,
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Oh, it’s not me at all. And then you see these different layers of why that person’s carrying
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that story about you. And sometimes that story helps them to feel better. Yes. And it’s okay,
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whatever people think of us, it’s none of our business. Because guess what, when you’re so
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focused on being your own Miracle Magnet, and attracting high vibes into your own life,
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you don’t really care what other people think. I mean, there’s an aspect of caring. But at the same
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time, when you’re so focused on your own goals, and you have your own mission to fulfill, then
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you realize everyone has their own journey. And it doesn’t trigger you as much at all.
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Yeah, I love that thinking. Yeah. And we can’t take away someone else’s journey. And even if,
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you know, they’re struggling, you know, unless they really want that help, we can’t even help them,
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right? Because not everybody is meant to be helped in this lifetime either, right?
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Not everybody is meant to go on to, I’ve realized, not everybody’s meant to have a huge spiritual
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awakening. No, no. Some people are meant to go through their lives with a certain amount of
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trauma, a certain amount of, you know, learning that they’re taking with them. And some people
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choose and actually, there’s only 3% of the population in the world that chooses to do
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something. Oh, wow. To make change in their life. Wow, I thought it was five, but it’s three. Wow,
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that’s crazy. Percent. So you are both in that top 3% of people who’ve decided, hey, I don’t want to
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live like this. I deserve more. I’m Better Than This. We like to say. Yeah, IBTT. I’m Better
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Than This. Yeah. So there’s only 3% who choose to make a change and do something and transform
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their life. Wow, thank you. You’re just a wealth of knowledge. This is amazing. Yeah, I just love
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love what you do Dimple. And it is just, you know, such an inspiration. So I want to ask you to tell
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our viewers, our listeners, how they can contact you if they’re inspired,
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you know, maybe they’re, they’ve got a daughter, a son, you know, someone that that
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they want to help out, they’re struggling, you know, maybe a whole family that needs support. So
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what’s the best way to connect with you? And yeah. And I want to pop in that your podcast is
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available as a complimentary resource for people to learn more about you. So tell us about that,
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too? Thank you. Thank you. So yes, my podcast is called I Am Mom. And it’s actually in the midst of
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being rebranded at the moment. So it’s going to release probably early January again. And it’s
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going to be really juicy, really juicy. But I had the pleasure of having Elvira on my podcast, you
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were episode 36. First episode of the year, in year 2022. Oh, that was so much fun. Yeah. And
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so people can find me at MindfulEvolution.ca and at MindfulEvolution.ca/offer
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they can download a PDF of my process that I use for with clients. And on Instagram, I am
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@Dimple.HolisticLifeCoach. Nice, nice. Love that. Yeah, that’s fantastic. I am so happy, Dimple that
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we are connected. And we’re going to be going out soon and meeting each other in person, I get to
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squish you and she gets to squish you! So yay! Yeah. So what question do you want to answer that we
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haven’t asked you yet? I, I just feel so honored to be here with you both. I mean, both of you are
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so dear to me. I love the work that you do. I know that we have these really high vibe conversations
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all the time. And we get so excited. And I mean, it’s excellent. You two just get me. What I do want
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to touch upon one more thing is the importance of community. So we cannot do any of this work alone.
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And we have to have community and people around us that are supportive in order for us to raise
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our vibes. And I had set an intention when I was younger, probably, maybe 10 years ago, I set this
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intention that I’m going to build a community of people that that are also there to serve other
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people and to help them raise their vibe; transform. And I have met the most dearest people, you two
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included. And I just keep meeting the most wonderful people. And it’s one of the most fulfilling
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parts of my life now, is the people in my life, the community. And the other thing I want to add to
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that is, maybe there are people in our lives that are not the, you know, are not contributing to our,
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maybe they’re bringing us down. But the work we do on ourselves, we can energetically heal transform,
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not that I’m taking responsibility for other people, everyone’s accountable for their own
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journey. But we have that power to bring more love into the world, to bring more love into the
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relationship, and to actually change the dynamic of the relationship. Without that other person doing
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anything. Yeah, it happens so many times. Oh my god, right? Like I changed the relationship with
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my mother, it used to be so problematic. When I got married, we were barely talking to each other,
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then I became a mom, and there was all these issues. And I went to therapy for two years,
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and it helped to some degree, my mom’s my best friend today. But it was only in the last few
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years that I really embodied the teachings and tools that were gifted to me at rock bottom.
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And she is an angel today. And she and I just get along so well, we just love on each other.
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And yet, with my brother, they’re really prickly with each other, because it’s just the way it is.
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My brother hasn’t done the inner work, and neither has she. But one person can transform
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a relationship. And that is the magic and miracles. And I love what you said about community. Oh my
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god, what we could not do this without our community. And we’re so blessed and honored
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that we don’t have to fly alone. And we like to say when you feel Safe, Seen, Celebrated and
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Supported, it’s an incubator for healing and growth to greatness, where you get to feel,
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heal and reveal your aligned, authentic, fully self-expressed self. We believe that a world
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full of people like that can be Heaven on Earth. And that’s the world that we’re helping to co-create.
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So I know you’re right on there as well Dimple. And yeah, I’m just so thrilled that we
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had a chance to have this conversation. Thank you so much. I completely agree with everything
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you just said there. And I love your choice of words. You always have the best, the best
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acronyms! It’s the big pharma, it’s the big pharma in me, you can take the girl out of big pharma, but you
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can’t take big pharma out of the girl. Beautiful. It’s beautiful. And I also had a similar
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relationship with my mom too. And now I see so much goodness in her. I see so much beauty
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In her. I love your mom, by the way, she’s just so sweet. Please give her a big hug for me.
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What so many people say about her. Yeah, it’s tiny, adorable, like my mom.
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It’s amazing. It’s amazing how we can transform any relationship and really see the gifts in the
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people that are even trying to bring us down, right? So seeing the gift in everyone, everyone’s
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trying to teach us. And it is beautiful. And one more thing that I want to just quickly add
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is when you do do the work and you do heal yourself physically, mentally, emotionally,
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you will start to remember all the good things from your childhood, despite how traumatic
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it was. Oh, and I find it so fascinating and so amazing. Because the memories come in that
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you completely forgot about or suppressed, or your brain didn’t have room to process or to remember.
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And then you start to remember all the things and then you realize everyone really does do
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the best they can. Yeah. Oh, that’s so beautiful. And before we sign off, I want to add something
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that I just heard, I’m reading this book called the 15 Agree.. no, the 15 Commitments of Conscious
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Leaders. And one of the commitments, or one of the commitments speaks to this concept, which you
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alluded to. And it’s really cool. And I just think it’s, it’s a wonderful thing to share, because
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it’s assuming that everybody in your life, whether they’re positive or, you know, toxic, is an ally.
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Every single person is there to help you become a better you, whether they do it through negative
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means or positive means. So if we can see everybody as an ally on the planet, then I think we’re going
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to be better off. Do you resonate with that?
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It’s a tall order, but I love it.
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Completely agree.
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Yeah, yeah, I love that. I love that. So Dimple, thank you. Thank you. Thank you so much for
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joining Eleanor and I on our humble show. And again, we invite anyone that’s resonated with
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you to go to your website to connect with you on social, and reach out and I’m sure you do
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conversations complimentary to see if it’s a good fit to work one-on-one?
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I do I have a complimentary chat, connection calls. And they can find all that on my website.
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Awesome. Awesome. And your website once again is?
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mindfulevolution.ca. Okay, fantastic. Awesome. So thank you for joining us once again in a round
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of applause. So and we shall see you live real soon, my love.
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Wait, I can’t wait to see you ladies, so much. It’s been an honor and wishing you so much
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success with your podcast and so much love.
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Thank you, Dimple. Okay, bye.
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Okay, thank you everyone for listening on Skyward TV.
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And Hopeful Radio. Be well.
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