The Love Your Vibe Show, Season 2 Episode 1

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Hello everyone and welcome to The Love Your Vibe show where it’s A Revolution of Evolution.

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I am Elvira Hopper and I’m here with Eleanor Hayward and we are super excited to be part

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of Skyward TV and Hopeful Radio.

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They believe that the spiritual path to mental wellness is a great way to go and so do we.

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We are all about our unique personal development, SOULution, S-O-U-L and we are excited to be

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sharing with you all sorts of amazing people that are doing amazing things such as Julie

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Rose who is joining us today.

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She is a spiritual life coach with the Peaceful Paradigm and she is also a Miracle Mindset

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Mentor with The Love Your Vibe Transformation trained in part by this lovely lady over here [Eleanor].

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Hi Julie!

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So Julie we are so excited that you’re here today and we want you to announce what is

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today because it’s a very special day for you.

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International Day of Peace.

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Love it, love it.

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So Julie as you are you know you’re part of our team so you know all about the Miracle

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Magnet Movement.

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We talk about all modalities matter so we want to learn more about your modalities and how

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you get to serve in the world and we’re going to ask you questions about what it’s like

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to be a Miracle Mindset Mentor and what you like best about that.

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So let’s start with the Peaceful Paradigm and tell us more about your modalities so

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we can learn more about you.

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Thank you.

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Well I’ve led a life filled with utter chaos actually from the moment I was born and I was

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a ‘people pleaser’, a very good little girl and did whatever people wanted of me and I

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lost who I was and over time I was able to overcome that and be able to break the chains

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of living for other people in part, actually mostly in part, through the Love Your Vibe

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Transformation.

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What I do in Peaceful Paradigm is I help people remember who they really are and once you

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are living with who you really are you can live in peace and by living in peace you’re

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creating a ripple throughout the world which in turn gives world peace.

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Wow, that’s so beautiful Julie.

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Oh, love it, love it.

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So when you do your work with people one on one or in group, so I’m going to assume that

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as a Spiritual Life Coach you’re working with people one on one.

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Julie, is that right?

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Yes.

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Awesome.

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Yes, I work with people one on one and I honor their own spiritual beliefs and add a dash

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of my own to the mix.

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I’m very respectful of what people believe or do not believe in custom tailor programs

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suited to them because I believe we all have spirituality that we can use and it may come

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in different forms or have different labels and it’s all good.

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Yeah, awesome.

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That’s so beautiful.

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So I’m curious to know like who is an ideal client for you?

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Who is a divine client?

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Like the kind of person that you would love to work with and attract more of those people.

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Can you describe that person to us?

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So my ideal client, real not perfect, I was going to say client.

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That’s what we love to say.

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Oh my God, we could go into global warming but no, that’s not what we’re talking about

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today.

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My ideal client is somebody who is probably lived a bit of life, you know, at least 35

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years or more.

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I’m past midlife and it’s somebody who has a huge heart and serving other people, they’ve

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lost who they are and we help them get back to who they really are and to claim it and

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live in authenticity and there’s a way to do that without feeling like we’re hurting

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other people.

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Wow, awesome.

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Yeah, because when we live authentically, we are living our best life, our health gets

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better, our relationships get better, our wealth gets better because we’re not pretending

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to be something we’re not and I’m super passionate about this.

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You can tell when people are living authentically and on purpose, they’re living aligned, as

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I like to say aligned, authentically, self-expressed and they just have a vibration about them

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and good things find them and I’ve noticed this over and over.

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How about you?

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Yes, absolutely.

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My heart goes out to people who are suffering from inauthenticity that we discussed that

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this is an effect of trauma that causes us to disconnect from our soul and causes us

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to wear masks.

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Our ego comes out to protect us in different ways because our nervous system is constantly

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on threat analysis.

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How do you work with clients with that perspective, Julie?

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Well, what I help people do is find out why they’re wearing a mask.

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I mean, yes, the obvious is fear, but it goes deeper than that.

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What was ingrained in them as children that they may not be aware of?

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My parents went through a very traumatic incident when I was two years old, a semi-truck backed

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into our car and my nine-month-old baby sister perished.

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My mother was told she’d never walk again and they told my dad he was going to die.

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Thankfully, both of my parents survived, but they’re trauma that they embodied because

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they didn’t believe in getting therapy back then.

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I have a certain age where that was basically reserved for people that were diagnosed with

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mental illness.

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Our way was to not talk about it or just say, pray to Jesus, if you go to church three,

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four times a week, then you’ll feel better.

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Yes, that did serve them to a point, but I think that a lot of that trauma got shoved

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down underneath and then it was passed on to me.

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Here I was a little girl wanting to comfort mommy and daddy because there was just a feeling

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that they had gone through something really terrible.

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I did whatever I could to please them and that’s not their fault.

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They were wonderful parents and they did the best they could, but I taught myself to be

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a chameleon in all kinds of situations.

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As I grew older, I could be friends with the kids in athletics.

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I could be friends with the kids that were artsy.

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I would just meld and blend with whoever I was talking to and not really be me.

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That led to a life, not a whole life obviously because I’m doing great now, but led to me

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being in abusive relationships and actually being taken advantage by con artists.

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I was just people pleasing left and right.

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Who do I need to be to make you feel happy?

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Right, right.

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Oh my gosh.

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Wow.

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Wow.

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That is powerful, Julie.

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And yet, your story, it is unique, but it’s not that unique in the sense that there’s a

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lot of ‘people pleasers’ out there.

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There’s a lot of people that have had to, I like to say pretzel into whoever they needed

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to be in order to be loved and accepted.

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We’re raised by people that do the best they can, just like your parents, lovely people.

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However, we as kids feel we have to do certain things.

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This is what’s really interesting for me is we make these decisions as little people and

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we continue with these decisions for the rest of our lives instead of reevaluating.

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Is this really serving me?

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Is this thought or this mindset serving me?

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If we do the inner work, we can let go of the old beliefs.

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This is what we do with The Love Your Vibe transformation and I’m sure you do it one-on-one as a Spiritual

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Life Coach.

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It’s just so common.

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What would you like to say to someone that’s out there?

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Let’s say they’ve been ‘people pleasing’ just to be accepted, just to be loved, just like

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me.

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Were you there too?

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It’s awesome.

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Yeah.

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So, yeah.

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What would you say to people, let’s say, that have been really affected by the church,

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whatever church they’ve gone to and they are, you know, they’re not happy.

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They’re living out of alignment.

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They’re not being their authentic selves.

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They’re just getting by through life.

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Maybe they’re working a day job.

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They live to maybe party on the weekend or just, I want to say they’re not living a full

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life.

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They’re really just getting by.

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So what would you say to those people, Julie?

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Well, I would ask them some questions.

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I would find out if their church is supporting them and who they are authentically or not

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because each person, you know, has an individual case.

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Like I know some people whose lives are enriched by a church because not all of them are authoritarian.

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As for the ones that felt they had to be inauthentic to match some sort of image that the church

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wants them to portray with them.

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I would ask them, what did you want to be as a child?

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Like, yeah, I’m wearing my Barbie pink, by the way.

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You love it.

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My inner child from our Mentors’ retreat.

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Yeah.

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I would say, what did you want to be?

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See, I wanted to be an actress and I wanted dancing lessons.

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And my family said, no, you are going to take piano lessons.

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You are not going to take dancing lessons.

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And my parents weren’t against dance.

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I mean, my parents were pretty easy going.

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It’s just that they went to a very strict church until I was 12 years old before we

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converted to Catholicism again.

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But they were worried about what the people within the strict church would say.

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So of course I couldn’t have dancing lessons.

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And to this day, I’m not a dancer per se, but I don’t care.

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With my body, have some fun.

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You don’t need lessons to have fun.

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And I’m a poet and I didn’t know it.

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You two bring out my inner child.

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So I just couldn’t be me.

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Oh, and my mother and the minister’s wife wanted me to play organ in the church.

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Oh, did you do that?

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Once.

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Yeah.

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And then I wouldn’t do it anymore.

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I just I wouldn’t.

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And why did I get yelled at?

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I didn’t even like playing piano or organ.

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It’s just that I was told I had to.

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Yeah.

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Anything you’re forced to do, it’s like, don’t effin’ tell me what to do, right?

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So yeah.

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That’s kind of how I felt.

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My dad wanted me to do piano because he never had a chance to do piano.

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And he forced me.

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And I was like, no.

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And but but here’s what’s interesting.

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I kind of play it now.

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I just I poured, right?

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I just accompany myself because I’m a singer.

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But but oh my God, I would have loved to have like really good piano, solid piano.

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But but when you’re pushed to do something, you just like your ego kicks in, right?

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So yeah, resisting.

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Yeah.

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Yes.

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Oh my goodness.

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So yeah.

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So let’s let’s talk a little bit about the Miracle Mindset Mentorship that you you’re

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a relatively new grad.

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So Eleanor, I love you to ask Julie some questions about that.

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What’s your favorite part about being a Miracle Mindset Mentor, Julie?

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Oh, gosh, the community.

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When we meet, I just leave feeling so glowy.

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And no, it’s not all positive and light and rainbows.

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I mean, we get down to the nitty gritty and talk about our shadows.

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But the glowy feeling is from feeling completely seen and safe, supported, celebrated.

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I mean, I just feel like I’m held in this warm embrace.

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And to see participants that had their cameras off, open up and just pour their hearts out.

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It’s real almost indescribable.

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Wow.

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I think everybody needs it.

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Yeah.

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That’s so beautiful, Julie.

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Yeah.

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I mean, what you have co-created with Jennifer and, you know, now it’s become

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the foundation of this global movement, the Miracle Magnet Movement.

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Sometimes I think about it and it makes me cry.

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Like I just can’t believe that, you know, I get to be a part of this with these

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incredible people.

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And you’re one of our first international Mentors, you and Pan Vera.

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And you came up to our retreat just a couple of weeks ago and it was so amazing getting

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to hug you and, you know, just you’re such a part of this beautiful movement and

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our mission to help heart centered humans do their inner work so we can all live aligned,

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authentic, fully self-expressed lives and have heaven on earth.

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Because when we feel in these small containers, when we feel, we heal and we reveal who we

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truly are.

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And that to me is heaven on earth.

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So I mean, I can’t think of living for anything better than that.

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How about you, Julie?

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I can’t.

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Aren’t we all looking for heaven?

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Yeah.

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Yeah.

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But on that level, though, tell us more, you mentioned the shadow, Julie, what does that

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mean to you and how do we explore that?

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So the shadow are things that are in our memory bank that may be holding us back.

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They may be presenting themselves as… I’m a PTSD victor.

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I have not had a panic attack since The Love Your Vibe Transformation.

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Which is amazing.

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Totally amazing.

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I’ll admit I came close to having one a few weeks ago.

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You remember?

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Yes.

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But I’m talking that maybe I felt it coming on for maybe like 60 seconds.

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And then I remembered who I am.

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Awesome.

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I’m better than this.

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I’m better than this panic disorder.

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I’m okay.

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I’m loved.

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I’m part of this beautiful community.

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Spirit is within me.

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We’re all spirit.

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So beautiful.

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And so tell us, like for people who are watching who might struggle with some mental illness,

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some coping disorders, maybe they’ve got like a substance use challenge.

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Numbing out.

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Numbing out and coping because this world can be really tough for people.

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And whether it’s genetic or whether it’s due to abuse or neglect.

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So tell us a little bit more about how that might impact the shadow and how do we shift

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Well, from personal experience, my way of numbing out was online shopping.

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When my mother passed away, I think it was 16 days after cancer diagnosis, it was quite

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a shock.

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I sat online and I just ordered all these clothes, silly clothes.

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I don’t even think I have them anymore.

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I think they all got donated.

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It was just, but that’s how I numbed out.

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And then Netflix over and over.

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And some people when they’re going through things, they might numb out through cigarettes,

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alcohol, smoking, not saying anything against those things being used in moderation.

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I’m talking about numbing out.

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People numb out from in all sorts of different ways, which may or may not be destructive

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to them.

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And what we do is bring the shadows up and we look at them.

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We shine the light on the shadows and bring the shadows to the light.

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And that light overcomes the shadow so we fell less of a need to numb out.

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Oh, so beautiful.

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Isn’t it great?

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There’s the glowy.

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Oh, that’s so beautiful.

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Thank you.

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Thank you, Julie.

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Yeah.

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Cause in like so many people, like in my perspective, like shame is like the epidemic

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in this world that we don’t really talk about, that it’s used as a, it’s as a tool to control

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people, to shame other people.

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That’s the Catholicism, you know?

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So that being said, not everybody has that experience, but I think that’s a very consistent

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experience.

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And so shame really holds us back and it makes us feel like we’re not good enough that we’re

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bad, that we’re wrong.

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But when we can share that, when we can identify how that feels in our bodies and share that

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with other people and they witness us in a very non-judgmental way, that it evaporates

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a little bit.

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Like you said, the light shines on it, people witness you in it and…

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It’s not shadow.

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It’s not shadow.

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And then we can integrate that and then we recognize that emotion when it comes up and

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we’re able to say, oh, okay, I see you.

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I see you.

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Oh, wait a minute.

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I’m really proud of you.

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Oh, my gosh.

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I’m gonna leave it now.

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See you.

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See you.

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And we can have fun with it, because it can be really dark when I had an issue last week

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that childhood stuff came up after our conference, our retreat, and it took me a while to process

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that and being seen and heard was an issue in my family.

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I had to go there, Elvira and Jennifer held beautiful space for me to just cry

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and it wasn’t easy and I felt like

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yeah, like I was back there as a little kid and but that’s the work.

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Those instances are fewer and further between that I feel like I’m aligned in my career that I have more autonomy,

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I can say no to those substances, and not feel like I have to indulge. I can

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Have more willpower to follow through and I just as an example of once you embody your shadow that you can live more in the light

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So would you agree Julie?

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Oh 100% I mean it’s not about stuffing our shadows away and pretending they don’t exist. It’s about

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not so much joining with them, but

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examining them

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Yeah, yeah and

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Not letting the shadow overcome our light the shadows may come out occasionally

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But then we can turn our light back on it by having a good cry or

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talking to another mentor or a coach

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Yeah, meditate. I mean there’s just so many ways to have the shadow go back into the corner. Yeah

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Yeah, it’s so beautiful. Yeah, because the way I see it. Yeah

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The way I see it is our authentic self our light self is our true self

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But our shadow self came out to protect us and it’s basically an expression of ego, right?

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Right. Oh, yeah defense mechanism. I think that yeah

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And so we all have that and to love ourselves and love our shadow. This is this is the work that I’ve done

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I’ve actually learned to love my shadow so that I could love other people’s shadows so I can hold space for their shame

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Shame storms, you know what I mean? Like this is what Brenee Brown talks about right when you’re in a shame storm

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Oh, I’m getting chills not everyone is

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Allowed to hear your shame storm, you know

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Like no one like you need to make sure that you share your shame with the right people because

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there’s some people that can’t hold space for shame.

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But if people have done their inner work,

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they can hold space for shame because they’ve learned to love their own shadow and they can love someone else’s shadow.

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And then when that person feels loved in spite of their shadow

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They can come out into the light and live there more often than not have you found that yourself Julie?

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Oh 100% I mean especially within The Love Your Vibe Transformation. I really

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can express anything I’m feeling anything I’m going through and

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Space is held for me

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Nobody’s saying you need to do this you need to do that or oh shame on you. It’s just I

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hear you. I love you. You’re safe. Yeah. Yeah, and we’ve got all our answers inside

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I mean as a coach, you know what we all you know believe that everybody

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you know is a sovereign being and has all the answers inside and

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You know, we don’t try to fix anybody because nobody’s broken, right?

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And we just hold space that they’re divine self their true self their authentic self their light self

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Will come out when the shadow is witnessed and it’s such a beautiful process like I…

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You know, I can’t think of a better way to live the rest of my life than

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Doing, helping people do, this inner work because we’re all we’re all geniuses. We all have that light

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that’s within us that you know, if it is

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Fostered well it can grow into a big giant flame and change the world.

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Flaming! Oh my gosh, oh

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it is so beautiful to talk with you like I just feel glowy and I got chills as we’re talking like it’s just so beautiful

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So so what would you say to someone who is on the fence right now, Julie?

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And they’re like, okay, this sounds interesting, you know

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I’m not so sure. Is there anything that you would recommend to them to get them off the fence?

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Definitely, I would say take advantage

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of a

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free

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connection discovery call whatever you call it with Elvira, Eleanor, myself, any of the mentors and

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We’re not going we’re not in the job of convincing you to join us. No

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No, no, that’s a whole vibration… we might have something else to recommend

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Yeah, yeah, there’s people where I’ve actually you know after talking to them

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I said, you know, I think you should follow this person on YouTube

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Because some things people aren’t ready for this deep work and that’s okay. They’ll come back when they’re ready.

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Yeah, there’s no forcing people. No, not ready

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And they’re curious and they’re courageous to go into that shadow then it’s not gonna happen

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Yeah, it does take a

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degree of openness, willingness, courage, curiosity, I find that that’s the magic recipe to

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You’ll get through it and from there, but sometimes resistance comes up and there’s a lot of fear to be like

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I’m doubtful. Yeah, you know, I’m

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Skeptical, that’s the ego coming out trying to protect you not yeah

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But it’s but you need to feel safe and that’s why it’s important to be with a practitioner who you feel safe with

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Yeah, no matter what definitely and I would say any of us would help somebody whether they want to join us or not helping them and that

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Referring them to something that better suits them for right now. Yeah, absolutely. Yeah, absolutely

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Yeah, we’re really good at that. We’ve been trained by a Eiji Morishita. Shout out to him our mentor

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so so beautiful! Julie so where can people find you and

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we’ll put all of your information in the in the show notes, but

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You know, tell us how we can find you and what’s coming up for you how people can work with you

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So it’s peaceful paradigm.com

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and

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On Facebook, I’m under Julie Rose and I know there’s a lot of them

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but look for a profile picture of a bunch of glowy ladies with a red head with big hair somewhere in there

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You’ll see that profile picture if you want to

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Private message instead of going on the website. You can also find all the mentors profiles on

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Elvirahopper.com/bundle

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To work with me privately

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The first thing that we must do is have what I call a Tea Talk because I drink tea all day long

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And I’m gonna drink tea and talk with you and we’re going to see if

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Better suits you to work with me one-on-one to work with The Love Your Vibe Transformation or maybe

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you don’t want to work with anybody right now and you know recommendations for books or

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Podcasts or website. That’s fine. I have

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probably about 12 years of personal development courses

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and so I feel very confident that I can lead you to something that will help you whether or not it’s with me or

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The Love Your Vibe Transformation. We’re here to serve

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My goal in life is to help you find inner peace. It’s not about me. It’s about you,

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and how you can have inner peace because when you feel peaceful

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I’ve done my job that I was put on earth to do

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Yay peace

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Amazing

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Thank you so much. So now feels like a good time to close down. Is that okay? Awesome. So, yeah

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So I just want to say to everyone watching, you know, please

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Reach out to Julie if you’re like, oh my god, I gotta talk to this woman, you know, please reach out to her

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She’s amazing. She won’t bite. She nibbles a little

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But she is so much fun

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So if you’re if you’re into fun like this is why we love doing this together because you know when we joined together in small

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communities to do this inner work. It’s not as hard as doing it on your own or in therapy

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People have told us this is better than therapy. This is better than Landmark Education. This is better than Tony Robbins.

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And I really take that with so much, you know, humble, humbleness because I did, you know, therapy

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I did Tony Robbins

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I did Landmark and I know that they’ve helped me at various points, but ours is a more ‘gentle rain soaks’

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divine feminine energy

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That is not in your face and you know, and so if you know had other forms of personal development

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You haven’t had this, you know

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So I just really want to encourage people to see that there’s other ways of doing the inner work

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You know, it doesn’t have to be toxic masculine. It can be divine feminine and it’s it can be fun

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This is what I say ‘if it ain’t fun. I’m done’, right? So, you know, even if you’re examining shadows, you can still have fun, right?

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So I know you’re fun. We’re fun. Everybody on the team is fun

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So I just wanted to add that right but I’m so so happy that you were able to join us, especially on this this beautiful

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Peace International Peace Day is that was that the what you mentioned earlier? Okay International Peace Day and

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Yeah, it’s just so beautiful. So you can check out Eleanor and I as well in the show notes

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You’ve got Eleanor’s link tree my link tree, you know, we’ve got our podcast that you know, we have on

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All podcast platforms. I have two YouTube shows. There’s all sorts of freebies in there online. I know Eleanor you have

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some

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great stuff as well

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And yeah, join the Miracle Magnet Zone on our Facebook. Yes. Thank you. Yes, I have daily insight inspiration from our team and

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Really grateful to Skyward TV and Hopeful Radio because they are an authority on this spiritual path to mental wellness

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Yeah, so thank you everyone for joining us. Thank you Julie. Thank you Eleanor

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Thank you and we will see you next time on another episode of The Love Your Vibe Show!

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It’s a Revolution of Evolution. Take care guys. Bye. Bye.