The Service of Self Care
- May 27, 2022
What is the value of life?
This #ThinkingThursday, my conclusion is, it depends on who you ask, and the extent of their embodied trauma
I’m inspired today by witnessing the effects of gun violence, climate change, discrimination, plus other sources of pain, suffering and hardship
You may scroll by thinking this is too much, and that’s fine!
Yet I’m honouring myself as an empath that I’m feeling the world, and am putting into words my complex thoughts and feelings
May this touch even one person if you’re at all interested, for the intended expansion of awareness into trauma, healing the world and your intended benefit
Consider the source. I’ve always been curious about human behaviour and healing. I’m a medically trained massage & wellness professional, from a matriarchal genetic lineage of medical professionals. I’ve been evolving through personal development, studying and practicing healing for 20+ of my 40 years on the planet
Admittedly, I’m not a trauma specialist, though my life Purpose is to facilitate holistic wellness through embodied empowerment, emotional intelligence, and healthy boundaries
I’m becoming more keenly aware of how crystallized trauma is across our culture, acted out every day in hearts, minds & bodies
The effects of trauma are easier to see in some people by “bad” behaviour, than it is in others by their “good” behaviour. Both are valid experiences. Judging rather than having empathy is where we can get stuck
Trauma is not the circumstance of what happens to us, it’s the reaction that our being stores, in our neurological system and cells
Our systems are tuned by generations of epi-genetic information, to be vigilant for and then react to future threats to keep us safe. The tendency is that we tend to overreact to potential threats, which keeps the cycle of trauma going through creating drama. Surviving, rather than thriving
From my university education in sociology the past several years, I see that most issues and solutions are rarely singular, and are usually nuanced. The ego craves simplicity and duality
There’s a micro angle within, a meso angle in community, and a macro angle with our institutions. They all interact and carry weight. They each have trauma embodied, according to Resmaa Menakem’s quote here, he’s a racial trauma expert, through an inter-generational lens
In a world where our macro-level economic system is based on the exploitation of people (labour), and planet (resources), I see our institutional systems largely put the value of money and power-over others ahead of the value of life and power-with others. Our laws and policies governing society, and values disseminated through media and education systems
However I believe that every single life has value. Everyone has something to learn, yet everyone has something to teach. Knowledge and experience are relative
Everyone has a Purpose on this planet, because I personally don’t believe the Universe makes mistakes. We need to believe in our own selves, and evolve!
We each have free will, with consequences for our thoughts, words and actions, in one way or another
We all have trauma. It’s baked into us through our personality
On a meso-level our culture is slowly shifting, that’s the beautiful thing about culture, it will shift when we each on a micro-level are able to metabolize this trauma, heal and shift our inner worlds
This shifts our behaviour, our personalities, and therefore our outer world through our perception, into our relationships
We’re learning the positive value of vulnerability and the negative impact of stigma, so we can be more aware, care and share our trauma as much as our triumphs, authentically
We’re learning to be more present, so we can act from alignment with love more often and deeply than fear. Which is admittedly a challenge, as we observe and process how much fear, trauma, and projected violence are otherwise ravaging around the world
Healing is not an event, it’s not a switch we can flip, or a pill we can take. It’s a daily practice of tuning into our hearts, bodies & spirits, integrating the mind so that we use it, rather than it using us
Shifting beliefs, values, thoughts and habits as we decide what’s most important
This is the act and practice of #PersonalDevelopment, to me. Examining how the macro and meso-level traumas of the world are pressed upon me, and how my micro-level Self reacts, responds, or flows
The solution for mental health and wellness is for each of us, collectively, to practice our #InnerWork to create beautiful healing ripples into the world
This is how we slowly yet surely co-create #HeavenOnEarth, on every level beginning within. How is this resonating?
I’m feeling my authentic truth ring in these words! If you got through this and received even one nugget I’m appreciative, though I’m honouring myself for articulating the complexities of life from my perspective
Blessed be
Relax, Refresh, Reflect and Rejuvenate
You Are the best investment you will ever make
Personal Empowerment, Embodiment and Evolution